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Originally Posted by DFB FGXR6
I'm so sorry to have raised these issues, it's such a touchy subject and genuinely hope you are in a better place to talk about it now. No one wants to talk about these topics, but when the grim event happens, there seems to be a stigma around an apparent "easy way out". I watched this happen in real time as news spread about a family's co-worker taking his own life and leaving two young children behind. Terms like "selfish" and "easy way out" really help no one in this situation, and all I could think of was how lost that young man would have felt, not at the apparent selfishness of his actions. And agree with you about males being stigmatized. In no way do I condone certain negative male-dominated behaviors, but its to the point now where being male is almost a "guilty till proven innocent" deal. And you see this permeating the entire of society. Perhaps the "warriors" out there advocating for female rights should have a little think about the adverse effect it can have on the male population that ISNT a rapist, an aggressive pig or objectifier. Probably said too much. I also agree that everyone needs to find their own coping mechanisms. In my case, the path I took started with a GP who I trusted and was comfortable approaching, which in turn led to seeing a therapist who I also trust. Has this solved all of my problems? Not at all, I will always need "mental health maintenance". Before though, I was otherwise just coping in silence. Now, I have avenues to let it out, sometimes it takes me a little deeper, sometimes it affirms the progress I have made. As I said at the start, I hope I haven't dragged something up that has hit a nerve, I would never intend to do that. Be well.
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No you're absolutely fine mate by talking about it all you have not hit a nerve or anything with me at all. I have also witnessed many people ( all men ) taking their own lives over the last 15 years mostly. And yes 'selfish and easy way out' really sucks to hear because it couldn't be further from the truth. The mental torment sometimes is just to much and even your own children are not enough to save you. Now thats someone in a real bad way it's not someone being selfish, it's someone being to strong for to long.I'm glad you're doing ok, Sometimes we need to talk about these things no matter how grim and I really don't think anyone on this forum is going to deliberately make any of us feel any worse so speak up if you feel you'd like to I say. I also think talking to people with the same head issues and experiences is helpful as they can relate and can share coping mechanisms. My issues started at 16 in 1996 and at the time everyone including the docs thought i was just a nutty kid, I got zero help besides one pill that I am still taking because it's hell trying to get off them :( 95% I worked out myself. Anyway..Can I ask what triggers your anxiety or makes your depression worse? You can send a PM if you want
PS, I know somethings I've said may have contradicted what I said at the start of these comments but I have my reasons and when I'm talking to someone with some issues I want to help I suppose.