[Sam_Boss260]

Thanks to all for your replies.

Ratmick - Your post truly hit close to home and you have identified a few points which I haven't mentioned as yet.

In terms of work, I am also in IT and generally enjoy my job. The boss is ok, can be quite firm at times but he is generally fair. However the environment is good and I get along with colleagues in general. There are always those clients and people who report to me that give you the sh#%s, but hey you get that everywhere.

I'm well aware of the supported living situations, as this is where my own mum and dad were. It was a great place that cared well for their changing needs. Mum was high care and dad was low care when they went in. We lost mum first and then gradually went into high care until he passed. The place was fantastic, brand new self-contained apartments, however it cost dad, then of course us (after dad passed) a fair amount of money out of our inheritance. But at the end of the day, it was mum and dad's money that served them well until they passed and they had all the care and attention that they needed.

Now this brings me to the next issue. I think the MIL would be better placed in a supported living facility or aged care type place, IF both her kids were supporting that. She doesn't want to go anywhere but I think could be persuaded. Problem being that she does not get a pension at all - nothing, as she has property (principle place of residence and a block of run down old flats) that pushes her over the threshold. The income from the flats barely covers the cost of rates, insurance and utilities of both properties. So seeing as she really doesn't have much of an income, I don't know how she would pay for a live-in carer. The BIL simply refuses to sell any of the properties to set the MIL up. He has his eyes on the properties to develop in units or townhouses after the old lady dies. I know, massive problems are ahead of me, massive.

So if she can't afford to stay in her own home to pay for live-in carers, and does not get a pension, how can she afford to eat? To me the solution is simple, sell the properties and set her up now with whatever care she needs. When she is gone (could be another 10 years) then divide up whatever is left. But it isn't that simple.

Dunno, all this side of the situation is also adding to the stresses and issues that I was referring to in the first post.

Adding to the happy and content matter.... is my life complicated right now? HELL YEAH !!